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Dear Activist Internet

I love you, I really do.  But the violent rhetoric?  I think it’s in bad taste.

I’m not one of those people who think you have to pander to the majority in order to get anywhere, neither.  As a person who identifies as a feminist and (heavily) as a fat activist, I don’t think it’s my job to make men or thin people feel awesome when I’m talking about fat or feminist issues.  Likewise, I don’t think discussions about race or cissexism need to be “inclusive” to white, cis people like me.

However - “die cis scum?”  Literally a quote I read on here the other day.  Like… yeah, you have the right to say what you want.  It’s a free “cuntry” and whatever, but if this shit is so important to you, why would say shit you don’t mean?  Because I strongly doubt that you actually want actual people to die, even if they are assholes.

I don’t expect anyone to “make themselves acceptable” to me, I just, you know, would kind of appreciate a little sincerity maybe?  I mean, unless you are actually intending to go out and make cisgender people die.  In that case, carry on.

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What is your middle name? Jane

What are you passionate about? Anymore?  Not a lot, honestly.  This makes me a little sad, because just a few months ago, I was balls out.  I guess I can still get pretty heated about politics, especially related to health care because it’s relevant to my life right now and stuff.

Zebra or leopard print? Leopard if I had to choose, but I’d take some horizontal stripes over either of these any day of the week.

Do you have any fears? Yes.  I’m a classic neurotic, so I will panic about stupid stuff.  My best friend on his way back to Montana for Christmas this past year, texted me from the plane, swearing that my ex was on it.  I freaked the fuck out, my bowels got loose on me, heart pounding - it was awful.  I have no idea what I thought was going to happen even if it was him, which it may not have been.  

Silver or gold? Silver (in color, naturally - I’m not so fancy that I require the actual metal).

Top three places to visit. Europe (obviously), Montana (see the fam, go to Yellowstone), and I’ve always had this pipe dream that I would like to jet off for a summer and rent a bungalow on Newport Beach and just spend a few months lying in the sun and cooking and being lazy.

How many siblings do you have? None.  This is not strictly true - I have (depending on who you ask) two half-brothers, but I’ve never met either of them, and I guess I’m unlikely to.

Where are you from? Born in Orange County, California, raised in Bozeman, Montana, have been living in Chicago, Illinois for the past eight years (approximately).

First career you wanted as a child. Wanted to be an actor or a rock star.  Ha!

What’s your sign? Pisces.

Future names of your children. I’ve never really thought about it.

What are you listening to right now? Nothing - it’s too early.

Do you believe in fate/destiny? Uh, not really?  I think there are some theoretical physicists out there who have convincing arguments about determinism and the nature of time, but I think the implications of doing away with the concept of free will would be dire, so even if all that quantum shit is true, I think we need free will in order to maintain a society that works.  So that is a very complicated answer to a relatively simple question.

What are your career goals? Oh, they used to be lofty.  Now, I am much more humble.  I have a pretty good job right now, and I’m hoping that I continue to do well at it - enough so that I can get a couple promotions, start making good money, and carve out a nice little life for myself.

What is your favorite colour? I don’t really have a favorite.  I wear a lot of black, and burgundy, and navy blue.

What is your favorite flower? Meh - don’t really have one.  Flowers don’t really do it for me.

What was the first concert/show you attended? The very first?  I believe it was either Raffi or Sharon, Lois, and Bram.  My mom took me to see Lyle Lovett when I was pretty little, so I guess that was my first legitimate, grown-up show.

Something you are working on right now. Gaining an intimate knowledge of how fucked up the health care system is in the US.  And the answer is: really, really fucked up.

Have you ever had a near-death experience? I was pretty sure I was going to die on a Montana highway once when a trucker thought it would be hilarious to bear down on me.  It was really fucking scary, and I almost killed someone else in the process.  It still kind of freaks me out what happened (though it was a long time ago), because I wish I had made better decisions.  No one was hurt, but I still feel frightened and guilty every time I think about it.

Are you a procrastinator or do you get things done early? Definitely a procrastinator.  I’m terrible.

Left or right handed? Right.

TV Shows and anime you watch regularly. Current TV shows?  Parks and Rec, 30 Rock, and the Walking Dead.

Halloween costume idea for this year? Haven’t done Halloween in years.

What is your relationship status? Chris and I have been living together for just over a month now and we’re pretty happy :)

Last movie you just watched. We watched Silverado last night.  Good fucking time.

Your best friend’s name. Well, it’s Chris, isn’t it?  

A song that’s been stuck in your head. Nothing at the moment (thank God).

A book you want to read/have recently read. I just listened to Sarah Vowell’s The Partly Cloudy Patriot at work (I have discovered that listening to podcasts and books at work is a pleasant way to spend the day), and now I really want to read the one she wrote about listening to the radio, because I’m an NPR-fiend too.  Also, Sarah Vowell is from Bozeman, Montana, and you know about hometown heroes and shit.

(Source: ravenclawchaser, via effasinfat)

This is a great house!!

Really?  That actually means a lot to me.  I have a lot of woes regarding this apartment, namely the shitty kitchen with no counter space and awkward cabinets, the unresponsive maintenance dude, the leak in my bedroom ceiling (which I don’t think is leaking anymore, but the ceiling is damaged and needs to be fixed), and the shower that doesn’t work right (and leaks into the downstairs unit).

But you know, I’ve put some effort into the place, and I’m glad to know that it pleases. :)

Accomplished everything on my list today!  My house looks so clean, y’all.  :)

hahaha. well i mean you do have old fashioned tastes but i like all kinds of shoes including old fashioned! so they are great. And yeah Denny’s barfs. Those cherished memories are burned into my brain for eternity.

Old fashioned????  Yeah, I guess so.  I guess I’ll always be a little old lady at heart.

Barf barf barf. :)

you better not be mocking me gurl! of course you have exquisite taste I mean you are friends with me *badum chh*

Definitely not mocking.  Chris likes to make fun of me for my taste in footwear, which I believe he characterizes as “schoolmarm,” and I just wanted to show him that SOMEONE likes my taste.  And yes, the fact that you are in my life is a testament to what a great person I am, because obviously I wouldn’t be friends with someone as pretty and talented and spicy as you if I sucked.  Buh-duh.

I don’t think I’ve told you I miss you this week.  I MISS YOU AND I MISS BARFING IN FRONT OF DENNY’S WITH YOU.  Denny’s barfs are the best barfs.